Lying is so embedded into our life, and we don't even realize the effects of it. The act of delusion has blown me away. Being able to take away the facts, that answer vital reasons for our actions, is priceless. This skill is incomparable. But, is it a good skill?
The main example that Stephanie Ericsson gave in "The Ways we Lie," for delusion is alcoholism. People who believe that the challenges in their life are legitimate reasons for drinking are wrong. This reason I see a lot in people. They want to avoid the actual problem so they use something to buffer it. I can remember my best friends parents used to take care of this troubled teenager in their church. He had a hard childhood of drugs and abusive parents, so they gave him support in order to reconstruct his life. They found him a house to live in, the mom gave him lunch everyday at school( even though he was old enough to make his own), lent him cars, etc.
Even though this young adult was given all the potential to create a better life for himself he kept giving up or lashing out. He would get back into drugs, tell the mom what my best friend was doing at school( or who she was talking to), and then retaliate against the mom all over again. The dad finally started being more firm with him, but the mom just keep on giving him chance after chance. My friend was deeply upset at the delusional actions that her mom was making, but of course her mom couldn't see them. She was being used!
Delusion strikes us all in ways we can't quite understand. We have to have the realization of the situation before we come to terms with what is really happening and why.
Yes. One person's delusions can drag down everyone around him and ripple out in to wider circles. It hurts to see a friend getting hurt by a well fortified lie that is out of her control.
ReplyDeleteDeliusion is a hard one, espically if your the one in it. It sounded to me that not only was your friends mom in deliusion but the drug addicted person was too. The only way for that person tho get out of that delusion is to be told the truth or kicked out on their ass to see the real world. They'll either get out of the delusion themselfs or stay in it for the rest of their lives alone. I guess thats just my view and its a little harsh.
ReplyDeleteReading this I really got what you were saying, and you answered your question. Maybe add some spacing and pictures for fun weeeee......Thanks.
This is a very sensative topic because arent we all subject to our own delusions? I know I am at least for certain things but the best we can do is hope that it will all work out for the best. I really enjoyedf your article, but as the comment above me said, a few pics could go along way.
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